Don’t Know How to Eat After Years of Dieting

By September 24, 2012

I am 39 yrs old, and have suffered with disordered eating for most of my life, I now realize. I have tried EVERY diet anyone has ever come up with, including just plain old starving. My reputation is that of an “expert” on nutrition, health and exercise. But on the inside I am in constant turmoil. If I see a photograph of myself I am mortified at how fat I look. The latest diet, exercise trend, pill, wrap, cream, etc. is all I think about. I am so confused now I have forgotten the correct way to eat. My list of “good” foods and “bad” foods changes so frequently I cannot even remember what is on my list today. I cannot concentrate on anything else. If I am having a “fat” day – everybody LOOK OUT! That is certainly not fair to my family. I have admitted this behavior to myself, my best friend and my husband, but still have not sought professional help, although I am on the verge. I keep thinking I can get it under control, but I can’t seem to. I am exhausted from trying to figure out the correct way to eat for my body and my active lifestyle. Although I know those answers, I still want that elusive overnight miracle. Sorry I am rambling, I could go on forever. I know I really need to talk to someone, I have the phone number ready, just need to pick up the phone. Thank you for your wonderful website. – K

Dear K.,

It sounds like you are ready for some help. Good for you! It takes a lot of courage to realize when we need help. My advice to you would be to make sure that you see a dietitian and therapist who have experience with disordered eating as soon as possible. See “Finding Treatment” for more information on finding the right professionals. Be sure to let them know what your current safe and scary foods are.

In the meantime, the article “Eleven Keys to a Healthy Lifestyle” will help you get started. Right now, try and focus on eating 3 times a day. This will help you get used to eating on a regular basis. Then when you find a dietitian in your area, you can work on picking foods that will help you have the energy to function every day. Focus on whole grains, fruits and vegetables. Remember that all foods have their place in a healthy diet. Our prayers to you on your new journey!

The Fb Team